You spent the last two hours talking about yourself so you'd think your date would have SOME questions to ask. Instead they're going off on an anecdote about their aunt or whoever who did that one thing saving the orphans or the rainforest or whatever.
The narcissist's most defining trait is their inability to see things from other people's perspectives without having it relate to themselves. Like, for example, one time I was watching reruns of Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman and my partner told me he wanted to watch live news coverage of some political garbage or sports thing instead ... when he KNOWS DrQnMdWo is my favorite show.
You're not posting a photo of your outfit everyday for yourself. Your partner should be proud and supportive of your body positivity. A narcissist may not even be interested in others' Instagrams, like mine, drquinnPHD, which has great outfits posted daily for your viewing pleasure.
It's not always about THEM. Sure, their dad just died, but you just listened to them whine for like a solid 10 minutes. You haven't even pulled up photos of yourself on your phone yet--why can't they just let you have this brief moment of pleasure?
They don't "get it" because they're unable to relate to a wonderful, selfless character that is Michaela Quinn. Your crying tantrums and accusatory rants aren't even enough to convince them to buy the boxed set on BluRay for you guys to watch.
You have TENS if not TWENTIES of close relatives and strangers who will happily leave very specific comments showing that they watched the entire twenty minute recap of your day. Sure, your partner was there for most of the day, but why aren't they fascinated by the verbal retelling filmed in the front seat of your car?
The ultimate test of whether your partner is a narcissist is if they will PayPal me money at firstname.lastname@example.org. If they don't, dump their self-absorbed butts and send me the money you were going to use buying them gifts because it's not always about you either.