Sex & Alcohol
Do you like sex? Do you enjoy a drink from time to time? How many of you out there remember those pubescent high school days in which all you could think about was how to sleep with your crush from across the class? In most cases, those fantasies stayed just that, fantasies.But then college came to your rescue.Now, the hottie across the class who you are eyeing, due to alcohol in most cases, seems somewhat attainable.
Now don’t get me wrong, for a decent amount of high school students, alcohol did play a big part in the social lubrication and advancement of your pubescent cause. However, as time progressed, a difference between then and now emerged: back then, when you told your friends that something would/or did happen with you’re across the class crush, they laughed at you…this is not so anymore.
On any given night, for some odd reason, to go along with the advancement of age, it seems to me, comes the easiness of a hookup.I have done a tremendous amount of…self investigation into this topic and I still have not reached a conclusive reason to why this is.However, I do have a theory:
Growing up, we as Americans are raised to believe all the wrong things when pertaining to sex & alcohol. Our parents, from a young age, gave us bibles and torahs (and whatever other religious book you prefer), which invariably preached how bad sex and alcohol are. One of the first stories we are all told is that of Adam & Eve in the Garden of Eden.
As you recall, once Adam & Eve are banished from the garden, they immediately are ashamed of their bodies and have to put clothing on to cover up. This, above all things in westernized thought, is considered to be the first and highest moral sin. The basic lesson: nudity and sex are to be scorned upon.
Alcohol though, is the oddity of the pair. Unlike sex, alcohol, specifically wine, is considered a sacrament in westernized thought. Both major western religions have become known to incorporate wine into their spiritual rituals (Christianity: Jesus blood to wine & Judaism: the Kiddush). Nonetheless, over the years, the sacrament has become tarnished by the over saturation of different varieties of alcohol, especially foreign alcohol.
When our ancestors came in search of a better home, they brought with them European wines. Over the years, wanting to continue drinking wine, they built vineyards of their own. However, once the mass importation of other liquors drowned the market, the traditional wine makers, now losing money, marked drinking as a cultural sin (obviously, with the exception of their sacrament). The basic lesson: any alcohol which isn’t based in westernized sacrifice is a sin to drink.
So, for the vast majority of us, we grow up in with a premature shadow placed over our heads which we had no part in making. In this fact, I find myself an outsider.
When I was 12 years old, my parents, on New Years Eve, got me drunk (later explaining its better to learn around those who love you instead of those who don’t).To go along with this, the topic of sex was always open for discussion in my house. Essentially, I was raised with a European upbringing in which I could have a drink and talk about sex openly, without any weight of guilt prematurely placed upon my shoulders.
Here in lies the problem. The American upbringing, in the belief that abstinence is better than knowledge has failed its young people. When the vast majority of young people finally get to experience alcohol and sex, they do so irresponsibly because of the prior guilt placed on them. Somewhere along the way, for whatever reason, be it up tight parents or religious teachings, our culture has turned two natural things into two un-natural sins.
Drinking and sex, although different functions all together, are in one important way exactly the same. Both require the user or part taker to learn a lesson.Good sex comes from learning, practice makes perfect. On the same level, knowing your alcohol limits comes from learning your body and how much you can drink. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating irresponsible use of both, but I am also not advocating the teaching of abstinence.
In both cases, moderation is the best tool. Sex and alcohol should not be looked at as a sin and scorned upon, rather they should be viewed as natural and embraced for what they are.
Back to my original point. When we reach college, we go through so much disappointment in both categories because our culture had denied us the basic tools in both applications. By the time we get here, sex and alcohol, should be as fluent a language as the one with which we were raised in, sadly they are not.
So for now, continue eyeing that crush and hopefully make something of it. This way, when your parents ask you what you learned in school, you can simply tell them, “what’s natural.”
-Brad Leibowitz
February 14, 2007